Finally, a long sensible post on Floi's blog!^_^ Tatlong bagsak para kay TON!
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what would stop you from pursuing that girl?"
First of all, the most obvious reason could be that the guy never liked the girl in the first place. Of course, some people play and flirt around even to the point that it’s really hard to tell. In some instances, it’s just that the girl just falls for it too quickly. Either she’s desperate or she just liked the person to begin with and her mind just started playing tricks on her. People tend to construe the actions of people that they like in ways that favor them. It’s all very exaggerated and funny but we’re all quite prone to it even in cases where relationships are not involved.
Second, it could be that the guy is just a stupid twat who can’t get a clue. I suppose guys are known for being insensitive but this is ridiculous. But let’s just say that he really really really knew for a fact that the girl liked him back. Actually, it’s not quite ridiculous at all because I’ve seen it happen before. I have a couple of friends who, unbeknownst to me and my barkada, were developing some very romantic feelings for each other. They started delving into this relationship but everything turned whack and they literally ended up being enemies for some very stupid reasons. The reason primarily was because of ilang (which is a twisted form of embarrassment). They both knew they liked each and other everyone else knew but they wouldn’t act on it because they’d been friends for so long that it just felt different.
Third, it could also be some form of performance anxiety. You know what happens when you get something that you’ve wanted so badly for so long that you’re actually afraid you might destroy it. It’s kind of the same with relationships. Some people can be so afraid of destroying a friendship that they’d rather keep it as that rather than end up ruining it. In much the same way, some people are intimidated by the other person that they’re afraid they might not live up to expectations. Take ugly guys and models for example. It’s unlikely but relationships between these two do happen and when they do, sometimes the guys are just so intimidated or afraid of falling short that they’d rather not go through with it at all.
Fourth, it might be that the guy just doesn’t know how to go about it. There are guys like that out there. Is it so hard to believe? It’s sad but there are people like that – people who simply don’t want to be in any kind of relationship, can’t or just don’t know how. The first one are, I suppose, ultra-introverts – asocial types. The second could probably the worst. They can’t be in a relationship because other people don’t want to be in a relationship with them. And the last one I just explained.
Fifth, the guy might be in denial. He must’ve wanted it so much that learning that you like him back is just so surreal that it’s hard to believe and, in fact, he doesn’t believe it. He might be thinking that it’s either you’re just playing with him or are just being nice, both of which do nothing to help his ego at all.
Finally, in relation to the first answer, maybe there’s someone else or you’re just his meantime girl. Again, it happens. Shit happens. Guys, like most normal people, crave having someone around. If in the event that there isn’t anyone particularly suitable, guys will tend to go to their meantime girls. Usually these are friends or ex-girlfriend and flings. But if none of these options are available, there’s always time to find a new one, right? The reason why he can’t commit is because you just ain’t worth it. Or, maybe he actually has a heart and decided not to commit knowing full well that he’d only end up ditching you in the near future.
*.* as if! @ 2:42:00 PM • • RBJ
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